Marriage is one of the bedrocks of our society. It shows everyone that a couple is united, and brings families together.
Generally, it also is the start of a new family, as you and your spouse have children together. This is often a tough thing to manage. The responsibility of kids, together with the daily grind from work, can make it hard to attend to the emotional health of the relationship.
No one has a love that is the same all the time. Love ebbs and flows. This is normal. It's also affected by everything else going on in your life. If you are smart, you can track the symptoms of love fading so you can see it happening hopefully before it is too late. Here are three signs to watch for:
1. Telling lies to your spouse. White lies are still lies, and lies about harmless small things are still lies. The problem is, the basis of your marriage is trust. If you start lying, this erodes the trust which is the basis for your bond.
White lies can be especially pernicious. Often we start with a white lie that we told for a 'good reason,' to avoid hurting someone. But then it makes it that much easier to lie again in the future. You can start to tell bigger and bigger lies before you even realize it is becoming an issue.
2. Lots of arguments over small things. Every couple will argue sometimes. It isn't the argument that is the problem per se. If you are arguing frequently, though, this is troubling, especially if you are arguing about silly little things that you wouldn't have argued about months back. This shows a reduction in tolerance for your spouse.
When you argue, you can start to feel angry and frustration also. You need to keep them in check, because if you really let fly and say and do hurtful things this will damage your marriage.
3. Physical intimacy is rare. If you and your spouse are very rarely intimate or passionate about one another, this is a warning sign. Love leads to intimacy. If there is no longer any intimacy in the relationship, then you can be fairly sure that love is probably fading away.
These indicators can help you to maintain the health of your marriage. Check in every so often to see whether they are showing up in your life, and if they are take steps to repair your bond quickly.
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This post was written by Gwen Ray on May 27, 2010
